Goddess Sydney

It can be said that one of the few pleasures in life is testing our boundaries and our edges to see exactly where we falter. It has become a great pleasure of mine when playing with a trusted submissive, to explore their limits and see where I can encourage them to open up beyond their perceived limitations. I always respect hard limits, while knowing that soft limits offer up a space to encourage growth and perhaps spark an awareness of depth. Too often we become comfortable with our limits and decide that they are as far as we can go, when the truth is, there’s so much further to go and so much more to explore. It often begs the question are our self perceived limits there to keep us safe or to keep us comfortable? Often times the difference between comfort and limit is very finite. So often we place limits on ourselves because of perceived fears that truly have no space in our reality. These fears can be with us a long time from childhood into adulthood, and we never seek to change or challenge them, but with a trusted and professional guide to eagerly encourage you to dive into the depths of your subconscious, you may find your boundaries are more flexible than previously thought.

Often our limits are there because of something outside of us, a religious belief or limit that is no longer cohesive with who we have become, a maligned belief of a subject that is too vast to be limited to such a narrow perception, a belief passed on to us from the generations before us that has outgrown the times we live in and the knowledge we possess. When I was first training to see subs as a professional dominatrix, my Domme mentor, Goddess Fae, was teaching me how to do needle play. I already had a vast awareness of how to use needles because of academic studies I had undertaken to potentially be an acupuncturist, a career that I did not end up following through with. For me, needles weren’t enticing, and certainly weren’t something I thought of as a turn on. That being said, I did want to learn about needle play, because I was intrigued with the power exchange and the amount of trust needed in the Dominant who is to be performing such a sensitive and skilled fetish. When I first saw my Domme mentor using the needles on her submissive, who was there for me to learn from, and I saw how much joy he got out of it, my experience of it completely changed. It was almost as if my aversion to needles was being projected onto this person, until I saw them and recognized, they did not have the same fears. Rather, they had an extreme desire for the feeling of their flesh being pierced in an intimate way by their Mistress. When it came my turn to insert needles into his sensitive flesh, I was extremely turned on by the experience of inflicting pain on somebody who got off on it. The experience fed my sadism and desire and it opened me up to the awareness that maybe the rigid restrictions of my brain weren’t always in my best interest.

If this experience had never happened I might still have the same feelings about needle play, or needles. While I can’t say that I love needles being used on me, anymore than I did before, I have allowed a lot of the fear I felt around them to transform into an understanding of how my mind can trick me. It was from that experience over a decade ago that I developed a new desire to explore the depths, the limits, and the boundaries of things that to me never seemed enjoyable. some say it is in our most uncomfortable moments that we truly learn who we are. Drawing upon our courage in the face of challenges, whether they be physical, emotional, or mental can truly change us for the better, and open us up to our power.